12 Habits of Extraordinarily Motivated People- By Peter Economy

Extraordinarily motivated people are driven to go above and beyond; they are trusted by others, focused and have great confidence in their own abilities. They dream of endless possibilities, and tend to be extremely satisfied with their lives. They are more likely to receive a raise or a dream project, maintain longer relationships, and get promoted or recruited more than their unmotivated peers.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… These are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” –Confucius

Seeking and achieving your dreams means you are really living your life. Ready to get motivated and become all you can be? Try some or all of these habits of extraordinarily motivated people and perhaps you too will find the courage to live a life of fulfilled dreams.

1. They’re internally motivated.

It is their intrinsic desire to be their best selves and succeed that drives their motivation. They are internally driven–not pushed–toward new adventures, the unfolding journey, and the possible outcomes–they relish challenging themselves, learning, and exploring.

2. They don’t waste time judging.

They objectively observe the successes and mistakes of others and learn from them instead of judging or comparing themselves. They don’t waste their time with judgmental, gossipy people either.

3. They are humble.

They are willing to admit they made a mistake and apologize. They encourage feedback from others and use it to take steps in the right direction.

4. They look at the upside.

Instead of focusing on what’s not working and bad experiences–which so many of us tend to do–they instead focus on what is working and their successes. If they find themselves overthinking a miscalculation, they automatically flip a switch and think about those things they did do right.

5. They are authentic.

They are true to themselves despite what others think–they don’t live their lives solely to please others.

6. They push beyond their comfort zone.

Extraordinarily motivated people face discomfort head on–they never choose the easy route–to get what they want. They push themselves out of their comfort zone and get rid of those annoying internal voices that say, “You are limited in what you can do.” They trust their abilities and know they will come out on top.

7. They continue to learn.

They read a lot and are brilliant observers–they are always watching and searching for new, more efficient, and faster ways to achieve. They understand that in order to grow as a person, they must always continue to learn.

8. They know what they want.

They have a clear vision of what they want their lives to look like and who they want to be. Their clarity comes with the wisdom to know what things to harness and what things to avoid. Their mottos are, “Never say never” and “Anything is possible.”

9. They don’t give up.

When they stumble over that proverbial bump in the road, they problem solve, come up with a plan, take action, and get past it. They understand that a sure way to lose a battle is to quit–which is not a part of their vocabulary or an option.

10. They don’t blame others.

They never blame others for their failures. They understand that ultimately they alone are in charge of their actions and choices and no other.

11. They take time for themselves.

They know that in order to stay motivated and on top of their game, they have to carve out time for themselves. Rewards of time away from it all and taking care of themselves are more important to them than material possessions.

12. They surround themselves with motivators.

Their friends are those who are trustworthy, positive, supportive, and bring out the best in them unconditionally. Their friends help them take on the world side by side and, when needed, help them get back on their feet again.

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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do- by Amy Morin

We often hear advice like, “Think positive and good things will happen,” or “Try your hardest and eventually things will work out.” While these words of wisdom certainly have merit, what may seem like well meaning suggestions won’t help you reach your goals if you’re simultaneously engaging in unhealthy behavior. Recognizing and replacing the unhealthy […]

Create more intimacy

1. Make your relationship a top priority.

It is easy to let “life” take over your focus and your energy. Make time for one another. Spend time enjoying each other’s company to reconnect, have fun, or try something new. Your partner should feel as though he/she comes first in your life, and you in his/hers.
 

2. Appreciate the little things.

Over time it can be easy to lose the courteous gestures that are common among dating couples. Remember to thank him/her for the little things he/she does that benefit your relationship and/or your family – no matter how small.

 
3. Say “I love you.”

Even though your partner knows it, he/she may need to hear those 3 little words more often. A phone call or a text message is a great way to show your partner that you are thinking of him/her, even when you are apart.
 

3. Communicate for fun.

When is the last time you had a really great connecting conversation with your partner? Remember some of the things you used to value talking about while you were dating. Even a 10-15 minute conversation at some point during your day can be very beneficial to the growth of your relationship.
 

4. Communicate to resolve issues.

While it is important to schedule time to have fun, stress-free conversation, you should also take time to discuss any issues or concerns you may have regarding your relationship. Getting your feelings out in the open and allowing your partner to do the same, will help you work through any problems and move forward.

 
5. Deviate from your routine.

Getting out of your usual surroundings – especially going somewhere new – is a great way to reenergize your relationship. Switch up your routine from time to time. Take the dog for a walk, visit a flea market, plan a trip or go for a drive – anything “different” that allows you to spend quality time together. With all the demands of everyday life, it can be hard to make time for each other. Experiencing new things together is a great way to reenergize your relationship.

 
6. Take time for sexual intimacy.

True satisfaction in an exclusive relationship comes from sharing how you feel about your relationship (both emotionally and sexually), communicating your needs and caring for your partner’s needs. Intimacy is an important part of a healthy, happy relationship.

 
7. Make time for yourself.

It may seem counterintuitive to spend time alone for the benefit of your relationship, but it’s true. Couples who spend every moment together are more likely to experience conflict. It is important that you both have the freedom to pursue your own interests and time with friends. You will be able to offer more to your partner if you take time for yourself.
 

8. Take pride in your looks.

A new haircut or an updated outfit can serve to capture your partner’s attention. Not only are you more confident when you feel and look good, but your partner might also notice and respond to the “new you” in a way that reignites the spark.
 

9. Take a class together.

Enjoy learning together in a marriage and relationship education course, a photography class, or even trying out a new sport. Most of all, have fun! Learning something new together, especially something that requires teamwork, is a great growing experience for any relationship.

Getting organized

Below you’ll find nine expert tips to help you start organizing your space and keep it organized.

1. Define what organization means for you.

There’s no one size fits all when it comes to organization. You can create your own definition of being organized.
For instance, maybe your primary focus isn’t aesthetics but function, maybe you need a system that helps you get out the door quicker. Or you need an organized kitchen because you love to cook. Or you need organizational systems that are easy enough for your kids and spouse to maintain.

2. Start with what motivates you.

Starting is often the hardest part, so go with what’s motivating to you.
Start with something that annoys you daily, such as the messy table in the hallway you pass on your way outside. You can pick something that’s going to be meaningful but won’t take much time such as cleaning out a junk drawer or organizing your mantle.

3. Create an organizing playlist.

Music can be motivating so put your favorite songs together. If you’re picking up for 10 minutes, you can hit play and listen to 3 songs.

4. Create deadlines.

Deadlines are great motivators for filling at least one bag. You can start by calling a charity to pick up your donations that way you can have a bag ready to go when they come.

5. Get it out of your house.

A critical part of the organizing process is dispersing whatever you don’t want. When you’re sorting and decide to get rid of something, get it out of the house, whether it’s into the recycling bin or to Goodwill.

6. Avoid being a “weekend warrior.”

On TV we often see people devoting an entire weekend to organizing a room or years’ worth of clutter and this quickly becomes overwhelming and exhausting. Instead, clean small areas in small chunks of 30 minutes to 3 hours tops.

7. Be mindful of new things.

Every item we have in our space we have to give some time, attention, effort and energy to. It’s easier to control what things come into our homes than to have to go through them, clean them, store them, make decisions on whether to keep them, and then eventually find another home for them. A really crucial part of being organized over the long term is to develop a consciousness over what we continue to acquire. Some people find it helpful to wait 24 hours before buying.

8. Have help.

It’s easier to start organizing and stick with it when you have someone keeping you accountable. This can be a friend, neighbor or a professional.

9. Reward yourself.

A good way to maintain momentum when you’re organizing is to reward yourself! Instead of rewarding yourself with an object, take yourself out for an experience. The art museum, a manicure, lunch with a friend, a walk in the park can even be nice.

She let go….. by Rev Safire Rose

She let go.

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.

She let go of the judgments.

She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.

Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice.

She didn’t read a book on how to let go.

She didn’t search the scriptures.

She just let go.

She let go of all of the memories that held her back.

She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do
it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go.

She didn’t journal about it.

She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.

She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.

She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.

She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

She didn’t call the prayer line.

She didn’t utter one word.

She just let go.

No one was around when it happened.

There was no applause or congratulations.

No one thanked her or praised her.

No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort.

There was no struggle.

It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.

It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

A small smile came over her face.

A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone
forevermore…

“I am” conciousness

I am without beginning or ending.

I am eternal.

I am free to experience life in any way I choose.

My consciousness is not bound by time or space.

Like the universe itself, I am limitless.

I am a part of a vast, unified wholeness.

I am free from all concerns about the past.

I am free from all concerns about the future.

My life is in perfect order, and it unfolds according to a perfect plan.

I do not strive to attain the things that I desire; I simply allow them to flow to me.

I release my grip on life.

I am calm in the knowledge that all my needs are taken care of.

I am open to all of life’s experiences.

As the moments of my life come and go, I am at peace.

I do not judge these moments.
I welcome them.
I observe them.
I accept them all.

If problems arise, I do not resist them.
I observe them with a calm, open mind, for I know that they will resolve in time…
And I have all the time in the world.

In the quiet spaces between my thoughts, inspiration comes to me.

All becomes clear.

My life transforms in magical and unexpected ways.

Obstacles that once seemed impassable, now seem insignificant.

I rise effortlessly above all challenges, to a place of serenity and knowing.

My path forward is becoming clearer and clearer.

Every day, in every way, my life becomes more and more harmonious.

I trust in the natural flow of life.

I resist nothing, I yearn for nothing.

I gratefully receive all that comes my way.

My consciousness is not bound by time or space.

Like the universe itself, I am limitless.

I am a part of a vast, unified wholeness.

Traits of healthy families

Here are traits of healthy families that allow children to develop into independent, functional adults:

Free expression of thoughts, feelings, and observations
Equality and fairness for all
Healthy communication
Reasonable rules
Nurturing and supportive
Healthy boundaries
Problem solving

As parents, here are seven key things you can do to ensure your children grow into independent adults:

1. Allow freedom of information.
One of the main characteristics of healthy families is freedom to express thoughts and observations. Children are naturally inquisitive about everything. This is healthy and should be encouraged!

2. Show your children respect.
Showing respect means that you listen and take them seriously, which communicates that who they are and what they think and feel have worth and merit. You don’t have to agree with what they say, but listening to understand shows that you respect them and teaches them self-respect. Speak to your children with courtesy.

3. Accept your children’s feelings.
Feelings needn’t be rational, nor do you have to “fix” them. Instead, comfort your children and let them know you love them, rather than try to talk them out of how they feel.

4. Respect your children’s boundaries.
Respecting children’s thoughts and feelings is a way of respecting boundaries. Verbal abuse and attacks violate their boundaries, as does unwanted touch and sexual exposure or intimacy. This also includes tickling beyond a child’s comfort level. Additionally, children’s property, space, and privacy should be respected. Reading their mail or diary or talking to their friends behind their back are off-limits.

5. Allow children age-appropriate decisions, responsibility, and independence.
Children need support in learning how to problem-solve and make decisions. Parents usually err on one extreme or the other. Many children must take on adult responsibilities too young and never learn to receive or rely on anyone. Some children are controlled or pampered, become dependent and don’t learn to make their own choices, while others are given unlimited freedom without guidance.
Children resist control because they seek self-control. They naturally push for independence, which isn’t rebelliousness and should be encouraged. Age-appropriate limits teach them self-control. When they’re ready to test their wings, they need guidance to help them make their own decisions plus the freedom to make and learn from mistakes.

6. Have reasonable, predictable, humane rules and punishments.
Children need a safe, predictable, and fair environment. When rules and punishments are arbitrary, harsh, or inconsistent, instead of learning from mistakes, children become angry and anxious, and learn to distrust their parents, authority, and others. Rules should be explicit and consistent, and parents need to be united.

7. Nurture your children.
You can’t give them too much love and understanding. This isn’t spoiling them. Some parents use gifts or not setting limits to show love, but this isn’t a substitute for empathy and affection, which are necessary for children to grow into confident, loving adults.
 

Practice good health!

1. Eat whole, natural foods.
2. Eat only foods that will spoil, but eat them before they do.
3. Eat naturally-raised meat including fish, seafood, poultry, beef, lamb, game, organ meats and eggs.
4. Eat whole, naturally-produced milk products from pasture-fed cows, preferably raw and/or fermented, such as whole yogurt, cultured butter, whole cheeses and fresh and sour cream.
5. Use only traditional fats and oils including butter and other animal fats, extra virgin olive oil, expeller expressed sesame and flax oil and the tropical oils—coconut and palm.
6. Eat fresh fruits and vegetables, preferably organic, in salads and soups, or lightly steamed.
7. Use whole grains and nuts that have been prepared by soaking, sprouting or sour leavening to neutralize phytic acid and other anti-nutrients.
8. Include enzyme-enhanced lacto-fermented vegetables, fruits, beverages and condiments in your diet on a regular basis.
9. Prepare homemade meat stocks from the bones of chicken, beef, lamb or fish and use liberally in soups and sauces.
10. Use herb teas and coffee substitutes in moderation.
11. Use filtered water for cooking and drinking.
12. Use unrefined Celtic sea salt and a variety of herbs and spices for food interest and appetite stimulation.
13. Make your own salad dressing using raw vinegar, extra virgin olive oil and expeller expressed flax oil.
14. Use natural sweeteners in moderation, such as raw honey, maple syrup, dehydrated cane sugar juice and stevia powder.
15. Use only unpasteurized wine or beer in strict moderation with meals.
16. Cook only in stainless steel, cast iron, glass or good quality enamel.
17. Use only natural supplements.
18. Get plenty of sleep, exercise and natural light.
19. Think positive thoughts and minimize stress.
20. Practice forgiveness.

Eleven Mantras for Love and Happiness

 

Everyone on this Earth deserves love and happiness, but many people look for these things in the wrong places. Believe it or not, both of these represent states of being that anyone can achieve by focusing their thoughts and intentions on love and happiness, and then following through with action.
Many of us feel disconnected and frazzled in our daily lives, often looking for something more that can’t be found in a job, a salary, material items, or other relationships. In fact, we often overlook one of the most powerful sources for love and happiness – ourselves! You can use the following mantras to reconnect you with your spirit. These can also help you remember that you have the capability to shift any negative or heavy thoughts into transformative, positive ones.
Use these 11 powerful mantras to create love & happiness in your life:

1. “I love myself, no matter what.”
I use this affirmation daily to help me remember that even when I make mistakes or have negative thoughts, I will love myself through it all. If you allow love to move through you, you will be able to express that love more easily to others. Simply put, we all actually ARE love, so saying this mantra aloud each day will remind you of your true state of being and bring you peace in times of both triumph and adversity.

2. “I am an infinite being, capable of extraordinary things.”
Most of us go through life limiting ourselves and not fully owning our potential. When you say these words to yourself, you become aware of your own power and will have a lot more confidence throughout the day to accomplish goals. Remember, you were created for a specific purpose, and the Universe is waiting for you to realize that and unleash your true power as a human being.
3.“I am in complete control of determining my emotions.”
When you let people or circumstances control your feelings, you deny yourself the ability to control your own emotions. You give away your power and allow other people’s opinions to destroy your state of mind. If you decide each day to become your own master and take charge of your feelings, you will immediately feel happier knowing that nothing outside of you can ever take away your bliss.

4. “I AM.”
How many times have you or others put a label on who you are? Probably more times than you can count. Labels only serve as ways to categorize people, because we were all taught from an early age to describe people based on characteristics. However, when you do that to yourself, you automatically negate your individuality. You place yourself in a box, bound to the implications of that label. For example, let’s say you feel depressed, so you tell your mom “I AM depressed.” Of course you will feel that way since you have placed that label on yourself. However, by choosing to acknowledge the fact that you exist, you can simply say “I am.” This takes an enormous weight off your shoulders once you give up the need to subscribe to a label that someone else created.

5. “I accept abundant love, happiness, and positive energy into my life.”
Just by saying this, it will automatically lift your energy levels and get you in a positive mindset to start the day. Everyone deserves an abundance of joy and love in their lives, but not everyone believes it. You must believe that you are deserving of positivity, love, and abundance in order to receive it. The Universe responds to your energy every second, so make sure you put out into the world what you would like to receive.

6. “I am not a drop in the ocean. I am the entire ocean in one drop.”
Rumi originally said this, and the meaning behind it still holds true. Essentially, it’s saying that you are not just a part of this universe, but you ARE the universe. You are not just a part of the ocean, you ARE the ocean. You are both a part and the whole at the same time. You have a significant role to play in this existence, and the whole Universe would be altered if not for your presence here on Earth. If you believe that, it will greatly help you along your path in life. You must believe you matter to believe you’re worthy of both love and happiness.

7. “I love myself exactly the way I am.”
Regardless of where you’re at in life and where you want to go, love yourself anyway. Be kind to yourself anyway. Even if you want to lose thirty pounds, or make more money, or change careers, or live elsewhere, realize how far you’ve come and be thankful for what your journey has taught you so far. Take away the conditions surrounding the love you give to yourself, and instead practice unconditional love. Loving yourself no matter the circumstances takes courage and practice, but if you give yourself permission to love the entirety of who you are, you will attract that energy back as well. Plus, it will give you a greater sense of self-worth.
8. “I will stay true to who I am at all times.”
It’s easy to cave into peer pressure and just go with the status quo to avoid making waves. However, this will only stifle your true spirit and make you feel disconnected with yourself. Be brave and stand up for what you believe and what you feel in your heart to be true. Not only will you increase your self-respect, but others will actually respect you more for standing up for yourself, even if you’re standing alone.

9. “I am thankful.”
I call this the “attitude of gratitude.” It’s so important to remind ourselves often of all our blessings in life, because we can easily take them for granted and focus on everything we don’t have instead. If you want to feel happy, just be mindful of all your blessings, and remember all those things you have that many don’t: food, water, shelter, clothing, safety, etc. Get in the habit of expressing your thanks to the Universe, and you will soon find you have even more to be thankful for.
10. “Every day is a new beginning.”
If you feel like you have taken the wrong turn in life, remember each sunrise gives you a chance to take the right turn. Each day you wake up holds endless opportunities for you to make your life the one you want to live. You can create the reality you want out of any circumstances, and if you can read this right now, you have the same chance as anyone else at manifesting the world that you want to see.

11. “I will observe myself, free of judgment.”

We can either be our own best friend, or our own worst enemy. It all depends on our outlook about ourselves. If you look at yourself as an incompetent, anxious, negative, unworthy, untalented individual, your reality probably won’t be that enjoyable to you. You will see everything as you see yourself: dark, dreary, and hopeless. However, if you simply acknowledge the fact that you are a spiritual being having a human experience, and realize that mistakes and imperfections come as part of the package deal, you will experience a much more positive reality. Learn to look at yourself without having to comment. You don’t always have to have something to say about yourself – you can simply sit back, observe, and allow the Universe to flow through you.

Feeling Overwhelmed

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Do you every feel completely over taken by life? These past few weeks I have had many clients speak of feeling overwhelmed. Whether you are working too much, in school full time, parenting toddlers or teens, starting your own business, dealing with health issues or just plain swamped by every day activities, it all adds up to an over full plate sometimes. These are the times when we need help the most and people tend to reach out the least.

Start with delegating what you can and asking for help when you need it. This can bring a big relief. For instance, asking a family member to watch the kids for an evening so you can relax. Hiring a housekeeper so that you can focus on other tasks. Hiring help to get organized so that you aren’t wasting time looking for things. Minimizing trips out by scheduling all your errands for one day a week. Making sure to get adequate sleep and creating a good self care routine will reduce stress and the feelings of being overwhelmed.

If you reach a breaking point, it is time to seek support. Working with a life coach can help you redirect your energy in a positive way and set small, achievable goals that will get you back on track. We all need to hit the reset button once in a while. Why wait? Feeling good is important and you are worth it!